Sunday, 22 January 2017

Love Story

If you read yesterday’s blog post you might have noticed the christian names of Thomas Mander Mills’ sister Annie who died on the voyage.  Two of her names come from the ship. (Annie Laty Banfield Invererne Mills.

So Elijah and Sarah made their way to Dannevirke with their nine surviving children.  Actually they went on to have three more.  12 children in 19 years.  It must have been very difficult and expensive try to feed, cloth, accommodate and educate such a large family whilst simultaneously attempting to establish yourself in a new land.
From this point I’m relying on my mother’s memory.

The struggle for the family must have become too difficult because after attending Woodville primary school Thomas was sent to live and work as a farm boy on the property of Mr & Mrs Thomas Hunter's station, at Porangahau.  They had no children and must have been impressed with young Thomas because instead of placing him in full-time employment on the farm they paid for him to get a secondary education as a boarder at Te Aute College, Pukehou.

Te Aute College was established by the Anglican Church in 1854 with the objective of educating Maori boys for attendance at university.  A number of its former pupils have gone on to have distinguished careers.  Not only did Thomas gain an excellent education but he also learned to speak Maori and understand Maori culture.  My mother could remember walking through Dannevirke with him and watching her grandfather hongi and speak Maori with local tribal elders.

Apparently Thomas proved to to have a natural ability of training and working with horses.  After his formal education had been completed Thomas found employment working with horses.  At this time most of New Zealand’s transport was by sea or river.  Main population centres were being connected by rail, although the rugged nature of the country made this slow.  Minor inland locations were connected by rough unsealed roads which were used by bullock carts.  Passengers and mail travelled by horse drawn stage coaches.  The largest company was Cobb & Co (of wild west fame) and Thomas obtained employment with them as a stage coach driver.

Meanwhile my great grandmother was living the lonely life of the sole daughter of a wealthy sheep station owner.  She had been educated to be a “young lady” with a personal maid and domestic servants to look after her every need.  Well not quite all her needs!  She wasn’t allowed to fraternise with the children of the station’s employees.

The weekly stage coach arrives being driven by a young handsome (so that’s where I get it from), personable, educated, and ambitious male of the right age.  It wasn’t long before raging hormones took over!  Elizabeth Crallan decided Thomas Mills was the most promising prospect she had seen to date and she wasn’t about to become a wallflower.  Despite her parents threat to “cut her off” she married Thomas. 

Thomas must have been intelligent, astute and ambitious because the same year they married he established his own business in Dannevirke

The Cyclopedia of New Zealand records
MILLS, THOMAS MANDER, Livery and Bait Stable Proprietor, Barraud Street, Dannevirke. This business was established by the present proprietor, in January, 1894. The premises consist of commodious stables, up-to-date in every respect, containing over fifty stalls and loose boxes, and accommodation for vehicles. Five coaches, two 'busses, a waggonette, a landau, two waggons, three double buggies, and a large number of single buggies and gigs are employed in the business; and Mr. Mills is assisted by a staff of twelve experienced persons. Mr. Mills also holds the Government Weber-Herbertville mail contract, and in conjunction with his business farms 140 acres of good grazing land.  Mr. Mills is a member of the Dannevirke Jockey Club, the Hawke's Bay Agricultural and Pastoral Society, and the local Lodge of Foresters.   

I have even found a photo of the premises

Having been raised a a lady, Elizabeth was determined to play her part as the wife of one of the towns most important businessmen.  She didn’t have a maid so her daughter, Edna was both trained as a lady and learned to assist her mother dress in the capacity of a maid.  Elizabeth was a leading figure in the local woman’s temperance movement, although my mother can remember she routinely drank a “Hot Toddy”.  Obviously purely for medicinal reasons! Smile 

Thomas was a progressive and by the turn of the century he had replaced the business horse drawn stage coaches with the new fangled automobiles.  I can remember my mother showing me a photo of one of his royal mail coaches.  It looked very similar to the one below, although with another row of seats.

By the 1920’s he was no longer involved with horses and instead selling American made Packard motor cars.  He had also established a garage and service station.  The Mills service station still exists in Dannevirke.

Thomas died in 1945 and Elizabeth a year earlier.
<sigh>  What a love story………

Now the genealogist in the family shoots holes in the story.

I can’t find any evidence of Elizabeth Crallan’s family owning a sheep station on the Wairarapa Coast.  Jan has found Thomas and Elizabeth’s wedding certificate and established her parents were James and Elizabeth (nee Richardson) Crallan. 

In 1859 James arrived in New Zealand from Westmoreland, UK on the Regina to join the NZ Gold Rush in the South Island.  He was a sawyer by trade and after unsuccessfully trying to get rich quick attempting to find that elusive gold he reverted to his trade moving to Oxford in North Canterbury.  Somewhere along the way he met and married Elizabeth.  James must have been quite a good sawyer because a local Oxford feature was named after him.  The Crallan Drain!

He obviously wasn’t always responsible as Jan found a court record showing he was fined £5 for being drunk and disorderly.

After 20 years in the South Island he moved the family to Dannevirke and established a sawmill.  This would have been about the time the government started to clear the Seventy-Mile-Bush.  James and Elizabeth had two sons and a daughter (Elizabeth).  He died in 1914 aged 88 and is recorded as a respected citizen of Dannevirke.

It would appear I cannot claim to be related to a wealthy family that owned a large sheep station.  However I can claim to be related to a drunk who had a drain named after him.  Perhaps this is my genetic connection to canals?

It’s also possible my mother mixed up her generations and it was Elizabeth Richardson who came from a wealthy sheep station in the South Island?


Jenny said...

I love the romantic version but both are very interesting.
My claim to fame is being descended from a run away sailor who jumped ship in Motueka and hid under the skirts of the publican's wife (the mind boggles) while the ship's officers were for him.
Plus - another one of my decendants was a Romany who romanced and married my great-great granny. That seems terribly romantic to me - imagine just how dark, swarthy and good looking he must have been, Sigh.....

Tom and Jan said...

Dark and good looking..... I thought you were writing about Robin!😂

Mike Griffin said...

Really interesting post, good to learn of the history of what sounds and probably is, a brilliant country.

Dig deeper, it's very interesting.